Thursday 13 – My Favorite “Gap” Moments

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For this week’s Thursday 13, I thought I would share some of my favorite “Gap” moments. “Gap” moments are when you hear or see something that stops you dead in your tracks, forces you to pay attention to it solely, and takes your breath away. For a deeper explanation, check out this interview with Pema Chödrön & k.d. lang.

Here are my 13 favorite “Gap” Moments (in no particular order):

  1. Joyous Laughter – this is the kind of laughter where you know the person is thoroughly enjoying whatever it is that they are doing. My father and brother’s laughter often makes me stop and reflect. It is a moment of pure pleasure for me. Children’s laughter will do this to me too.
  2. The Ocean – whether it is by listening to her breathe or just gazing at her majestic waves, I always stop and reflect, breathless and in awe.
  3. Birds Singing – although all birds singing will make me stop and listen, I am especially keen on the cawing of ravens and crows. They will stop me dead, no matter what I am doing. I will listen, imagine, become them in my mind. This is probably my most favorite “gap” moment.
  4. Sunrises – the glorious colors of red, orange and pinks put me in sheer awe. It is like watching the Divine paint the sky.
  5. Sunsets – watching the sky change from bright blue to indigo and splashed with reds and purples leaves me sighing and feels me with inspiration.
  6. Music – while not all music gives me “gap” moments, I don’t fully know why some does. It could be a melody or the lyrics, a guitar rip or the drums, a sax or piano. When it happens, I may have memory flashes or just feel completely in awe, but I definitely must pay attention.
  7. Deep Voices – there is just something about a deep voice that makes me stop and listen. It could be on TV, in a Movie, or a Song, or just someone nearby. It doesn’t matter what they are saying. I am not eavesdropping. I am just listening to the tone of their voice.
  8. Low Flying Planes – this is the only “Gap” moment that I do not find glorious. It creates fear and stops me dead in my tracks. I cannot focus on anything else until it has moved on. I mention it hear because although it causes me to react so badly, I am strangely fascinated by my reaction to it.
  9. Fire – I both fear and respect fire and whenever I see it anywhere – a fireplace, a candle, or a campfire – I am drawn to it and can lose myself staring into it.
  10. Chanting – whether it be during meditation, at a Buddhist or Hindu Temple, or in a Witches’ Circle, I am drawn to this sound, stop, reflect, and feel at peace.
  11. Certain Smells – spices and herbs, some flowers, evergreens, musky cologne or perfume, and Ivory soap… all of these will make me stop and reflect. I am so attracted to these smells. I will have memory flashes or just be in awe.
  12. Sleeping babies and animals – both of these have the same effect on me. I get lost watching them for as long as possible.
  13. Reading a Poem or Story with Powerful Imagery – these definitely cause me to stop and reflect, hold my breath, and gasp. I live for these!

How about you? What are some of your favorite “Gap” Moments? Share them with me in comments.



#WeekendCoffeeShare – 02.20.16


If we were having coffee, I would serve you some delicious shortbread cookies with your morning roast. Today being an unusually warm mid-morning in February, we would sit out on the front porch with sweaters on and have a chat.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you about my “gap” moment very early this morning as I stood at the kitchen window waiting for the kettle to boil for my morning tea. I spied through the maple tree a most glorious sight. An orange, pink and red layered sunrise! Time stood still. The moment lingered. I was lost in awe. The kettle whistled and reality slammed me back into the kitchen.

“If only “gap” moments lasted longer,” I would say with a long sigh.

If we were having coffee, I would cackle with glee. You’d stare at me, oddly.

I would whisper, “I am just so excited, you see.”

And then I would tell you that there are only 40 days left until the beginning of the A2Z Challenge and how thrilled I am to be participating.

“This is my second year,” I would tell you. “Are you are joining in too?”

If we were having coffee, I would tell you how excited I am about watching The Martian tonight.

“I didn’t get to see it in the theater, as there are none close to me,” I would confide. “I loved the book and hope they are true to it. Science Fiction is my favorite genre!” I would say as I clapped my hands.

“What’s yours?” I would ask curiously.

And finally, if we were having coffee, we would end our chat by gazing at the small neighborhood where I grew up and reflect on how it has changed, and yet remained very much the same.

If we were having coffee, what would YOU tell me? Let me know in comments!


This delightful morning coffee share is brought to you by Part-Time Monster and friends.



Share Your World – 2016 Week 5


for Cee’s Share Your World

If you had a shelf for your three most special possessions (not including photos, electronic devices and things stored on them, people or animals), what would you put on it?

My Orson Scott Card collection, the book The House of Breath by William Goyen and my Dancing Girl bronze statue

If you had a box labelled ‘happiness’, what would you put in it?

All three of my college degrees, the bus ticket from OK to VA, feathers my raven flock leave me, my favorite poetry books, my CD and DVD collections, pictures of past partners who despite the break-ups brought me happiness, pictures of the pets I’ve lost over the years, my sketches and collages, my gratitude journal

What do you want more of in your life?

*Gap* moments

Daily Life List: What do you do on an average day? Make a list of your usual activities you do each day.

This is what I have been doing almost constantly since the 28th of January (some of this I do every day this will be followed by an *)

  • wake up, meditate for 20 mins and then get out of bed*
  • turn on my computer and desk lamp*
  • stumble down the hallway for a pee and coffee*
  • do 20 mins of stretching exercises*
  • check my calendar for the day’s events and to-do list
  • write 750 words
  • turn on my Youtube Music Playlist*
  • get more coffee, stretch my legs, pee*
  • begin my writing projects*
  • finish my writing projects*
  • get more coffee, stretch my legs, pee*
  • go through the list of A2Zers and follow blogs
  • check emails and read blog posts and reblog as necessary
  • stretch my legs, bathroom break if needed*
  • contemplate if I am hungry enough to eat, if yes… cook. If no… read more blogs
  • eat dinner, because by now it is around 3 or 4 pm*
  • reward myself with a movie or tv program*
  • check facebook and twitter, or chat with a friend on the phone
  • take a late evening nap*
  • get out of bed, make tea and read emails or work on other writing projects*
  • return to bed around 2 or 3 am*
  • wash, rinse, repeat

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

Last week I am grateful that I completed my January goals, spent time with my dad, and caught up with an old friend.

This week I am looking forward to writing more horror stories and working on my other writing projects.