For this week’s question, Calen still has us pondering prompts from Philip Simmons’ book Learning to Fall.
What does acceptance feel like? How does it differ from resignation or passivity?
This is a great prompt because I spent an entire year back in 2014 focusing on Acceptance. It is not about being passive because you are not just allowing things to happen to you without pushing back. It is not resignation because of stepping down from unpleasant situations. Acceptance means that you consciously recognize that a situation is out of your means of control and there is no sense in fretting over it. You quietly say inside your mind, “I cannot change this,” and allow yourself to peacefully affirm it. This releases your attachment to whatever the situation is.
Here is an example of one of my moments of acceptance. My then-husband and I were out driving around and had a flat tire. His first reaction was frustration and anger (we’d been having a series of flat tires of late, but he would only buy used tires, so what can you expect?). He got out of the car, stormed around a bit, ranted and raved and then set about changing the tire. Normally, I would have reacted to his anger with some of my own or attempt to calm him down (which never worked anyway). But not on this particular day. I’d only been practicing Acceptance for two months, but thought this was a perfect time to do so. I got out of the car and went to a tree in someone’s yard. I sat under the tree and just listened to the wind blowing (it was March) and the birds chirping. I fell into complete bliss because I knew I couldn’t change what was happening and I accepted that I didn’t need to be involved in the rants and anger. It was one of the most life-affirming things I’d ever done.
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“Acceptance means that you consciously recognize that a situation is out of your means of control and there is no sense in fretting over it.” This is a wonderful definition, Lori. I can say I’ve done that successfully exactly once in my life (when we were adopting Stef), and now I’m in the midst of experiencing the same type of thing with Brandon and his life choices. We’ll see how that goes. This was a great post!
Thanks hun… it isn’t an easy practice, but I hope it helps you as you deal with Brandon’s situation
That sounds like an awesome experience! We can do so much by changing our attitudes. I think what stops most of us is the thought that it can’t be that simple! Takes a leap of faith to try it 🙂
True, Raili… something so simple can’t possibly work.. most think it has to be something complicated before it can actually work well.. nope, it really is that simple 🙂
True that 🙂