What does being a friend mean to you?
I have a difficult time trusting people, plus I am so quirky and awkward that I don’t attract many friends. I often say that I have a lot of acquaintances, but few friends. And that is true. I can count on one hand the number of truly devoted friends that I have.
For me, a true friend knows how to sit in silence with me. I live in my head 99% of the time and cannot tolerate an overly chatty person. A true friend also gives me space when I need it. As an introvert and empath, I need a lot of down-time. A true friend also knows that an email is better than a phone call because I don’t like to talk on the phone. And although I am a gift-giver, a true friend knows that I do not accept gifts well. I prefer the friend’s time over a gift any day.
I guess being a friend to me means that someone has taken the time to get to really know and understand me. A friend cares about my needs above their own. This is how I treat friends as well. I can’t do selfish, “me first” people. I don’t understand them and they tend to annoy and frustrate me.